Save a Marriage With a Porn Filter

Pornography can ruin marriages. It’s a fact and it is happening every day and more and more often. With the advent of the Internet and all the wonderful things it has brought us, also came the ability to easily view endless amounts of porn for free by anyone at any time and with complete discretion. Suddenly, for a man to look at hardcore adult videos became easier than picking the morning newspaper off of the driveway. For many marriages and romantic relationships, Internet porn has been a nightmare. What often begins as curiosity turns into compulsive behavior. Viewing porn can become an addiction. But by using a porn filter on your computer, you can actually avoid the problem from ever appearing.

Adults and children alike have access to an abundance of adult content and websites. You need to understand that it is not like television where a governing body creates and implements laws about what content can be broadcast. Even today, when rules are more lax than they once were, it is unlikely that a child would accidentally see x-rated scenes on the TV. But online, there is no body to filter what gets uploaded or what can be viewed. It is possible to spend time at work and at home browsing porn without anyone knowing. And more easily and more commonly than most people realize, many of those men become addicted to porn. It is also not difficult to hide an addiction to pornography. Other habits, like gambling, usually get discovered when losses become noticeable or behavior becomes strange. But the Internet allows people to keep their compulsion to watch porn hidden.

So just stop and get back to working on your relationship

Internet addiction is not like an alcohol addiction where you know something is wrong when someone is constantly in need of a drink and too drunk to function. It’s not like gambling, where you can tell there is a problem when the person runs up too much debt. The Internet has lots of great things to offer. We shop, learn, pay bills, communicate with friends, read the news – all online today. So spending a lot of time surfing the Internet is not unusual – and until one recognizes the problem in themselves or others begin to notice a change in behavior, it can take a long time. Furthermore for a wife or girlfriend, it can be very hard to admit that her husband or boyfriend is addicted to watching porn.

How to avoid the problem in the first place

Porn addiction is characterized by a difficulty to limit time spent online looking at adult websites. More and more people find themselves looking at porn regularly – wives, girlfriends, husbands, teens, etc. Pathological use of Internet porn can be stopped. By blocking adult content with a porn filter software, you can eliminate access by simply filtering out those problematic sites. A web filter, like Optenet PC is an easy way to stop a porn addiction problem as well as to manage your total Internet environment.

Your Relationships and Sexuality: The Porn Generation and the Aftermath

My friend came into the office looking tired and depressed. Obviously something was very wrong. “She left me, and I wasn’t even cheating!” “Tell me what happened,” I asked. He started to explain his porn habits. His earliest exposure was in his early teens. At first it was occasional glances and guilt ridden attempts to access his dad or elder brothers’ Playboy magazines. This went on and escalated through high school and college. There was still a hint of shame, but it made way for addiction.

Slippery Road. The pages of soft porn magazines were replaced with an enormous world of ever-expanding web pages – full of nude naughty girls apparently wanting to just have sex all day with anyone. He told me, with a wry smile, that during his college years he had to repeat some classes because he would get stuck watching porn all night and miss his early morning lectures. Now it seems to affect his whole life, his relationships and his job. Two weeks later, he was asked to leave the office due to allegations of sexual harassment. Obviously something was not right.

Today due to bandwidth and technology advances, video is the new web experience, and the multi-billion dollar porn industry knows just what to do with video.

Promiscuous Culture. This is an everyday thing though. Really. In a recent survey of college students in the US, The National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy (NCPTUP) determined that more than 80% of men and more than 50% of women said they had been exposed to pornography by age 14. The same survey has shown that 25% of teen girls and 33% of teen boys have had nude or semi-nude images – originally meant to be seen by someone else – shared with them online or on mobile phones. This phenomena has become more widespread due to almost every teenager walking around with a mobile device capable of taking high quality pictures and videos. Recently a group of under-aged youths in South Africa were arrested for ‘raping’ a 14-year old girl. What perspired was that the sex was consensual and that they filmed it for entertainment.

How it affects us all. Is behaviour like this normal? How does exposure to pornography contribute to behaviour and will this impact on our relationships, marriages, or our children later in life? If you met more than 5 people today chances are at least one or two of them have watched porn today (or will). Porn affects not only the user but also the ‘passive’ user. When relationships suffer, the whole of society is affected

Signs of addiction and recovery. How do you know you are an addict? Here are some guidelines.

You are on a path of * violent mood swings and strong cravings to satisfy your need to watch porn. You become anti-social and will let watching porn infringe on time with family and friends. * increasingly neglecting responsibilities. You miss deadlines, become less dependable at work or school or in your relationship. * seeing more and more legal issues coming up. Divorce, debt, or any other issues related to your addiction. You may find it hard maintaining a job and you may start spending money you don’t have feeding the insatiable appetite for more and more hardcore material as your tolerance is built up. Eventually financial hardships follow.*

Recovery is not an overnight switch though. It takes effort and sometimes just common sense. Like all addicts, there is the denial element, the “I can stop at any time” syndrome. We will assume after reading the above paragraph, you must admit you fit the profile. Pornography addiction is like any other addiction because it follows the same psychological (and sometimes physiological) pattern.

The dependent becomes addicted to a specific release or high reached after performing some kind of ritualistic act or behaviour. The relief or elation becomes a coping mechanism to deal with emotional and other life issues. Because addiction is cyclical, this scene will repeat and escalate in varied ways to reach the desired level of release. The thought process leading to this repetitive pattern becomes embedded as beneficial behaviour despite negative consequences for the addict, and in many cases, for other people. It may be years before the addict becomes fully aware of the consequences of his actions leaving him feeling out of control.

There is hope. Recovery is possible. Addicts hardly ever can do this alone though and many times intervention is the best way to bring a positive change. Willpower is not enough unfortunately especially if you have had setbacks before. The help and support of those around addicts is crucial for long term results.Some tips to start the road to recovery: * Addiction is not a ‘terminal’ disease. It is not a disease period. You have a choice and you have to make it. * Get help from family and friends. Only with help will you truly be able to live free from addiction. Accountability software for internet addicts is one of the most effective ways to get help. * Don’t wait for rock bottom. The earlier you identify your problem, the better for all. * It didn’t work before, it won’t again. Setbacks may be part of the road to recovery. Don’t use setbacks as a reason not to commit to a better outlook on your life. * Intervention may be the way to go. Hopefully there is someone that cares for you enough to organise an intervention. By installing accountability software on computers in your home or business, you can monitor the internet use and even filter it. Usually this type of software demands a code to be uninstalled.

Secret to Great Sex for Men

It is no secret, like just about every other guy in the world, ever since I was old enough, sex has consumed my mind. At the time I wasn’t old enough to understand the difference between good sex, OK sex, bad sex, Great Sex… Sex was sex. And then sex was primarily internet porn, which at the time wasn’t nearly as developed as it is now. This was back in the dial up days, where I was “surfing the web” with either an AOL, Compuserve, or Prodigy free trial. I guess at that time, the modems weren’t fast enough to even watch videos like you can today. A picture said a thousand words. The only videos were on tapes which some friend would have found in his parents secret hiding spot in the closet. VHS Tapes, not DVDs…

I guess at that time, I assumed all sex was Great porn star sex. With the size and stamina of the porn star guys, and that all girls would take it like porn star girls. After all, porn was basically my handbook, a guide that showed me up close and personal the birds and bees (an analogy I still don’t get). Tips on how to give her great sex.

But that was then and this is now. I am no longer a virgin, and I do understand the difference between the varying levels of sex, from bad to GREAT!! And reality set in as far as my sexual performance compared to porn star sex. But in the beginning, even bad sex was sex, so it was great. How to give her great sex wasn’t as important. I wasn’t even that interested on tips for sex. Not until later did I really learn the difference, and now that I am older, actually care about having great romps in the sack as opposed to a mediocre sprint.

My goals have changed, and I realized how much better Great Sex is compared to bad sex, or even OK sex. And don’t get me wrong, OK sex isn’t bad, and probably has the highest frequency, but still, when the time is there and the kids (the forget me nots from a hopefully great spin through the sheets because to have kids for a 2 minute quickie is a shame) are away at grandmom’s; that is the time for GREAT sex. A night out with wifey, a nice dinner, a couple drinks, a few games of pool, a little dancing, and cap it off with a there is nobody to wake up, I am going to make you scream for your life, position after position, I wish I had this on video moment of glory that if it were anything else you would tell the kids about when they got older.

Well, I also found out the hard way that that wasn’t as easy as it sounds either. Even when the kids are away, and you can do what ever you want, it doesn’t always work out as planned. You’re tired from a long day at work, getting older your sex drive isn’t as keen as it once was, and not having sex every day (sometimes multiple times a day) like in the honeymoon years your stamina may have waned a bit from what it once was.

I have been there, done that. But I have also stumbled upon one more secret women have been keeping from us; Male Kegel Exercises. Yes, men can do them too. Just like keeping your other muscles in shape, you can keep your sex muscles (PC muscles), in shape through kegel exercises. You can do them like how women do, by clenching the muscles in your Taint (it ain’t your balls, it ain’t your ass), holding and releasing. Or I have also found a set that lets you do kegels like a man should, with weights.

But whatever way you decide to do the exercises, take this secret and run with it. Do it for your pre-teen self who was “surfing the web” with dreams of great porn star sex. Do it for the pornstar handbook you used as your tip giving guide. Do it for yourself, here and now. You spend your life living your for your family, take this one and do it for you. And I am sure your wife will be more than happy to get her heart racing and her juices flowing. Because that another secret. Women love sex too, but not the 1 minute in and out preceding my nap sex. Great I’m gonna make you cum twice sex (but that’s an article for another time). It’s a win win situation. Enjoy!!

The 3 Sad Truths About Internet Porn

With the rise of porn on the Internet, many “free” web filters also began showing up. If you’ve ever used one of these free filters you’ll know that they are rubbish. And most of them have lacking features that you need to purchase in order to use. So ultimately you end up paying for what you thought you were getting in the first place! Now there are 3 reasons why free porn blockers are a waste of time, and I’m going to share them with you.

Are They Really “Free”?

Most “no cost” web filters do not present all of the features that it promised initially. It’s basically a marketing tool, to give you “a taste” of what the actual filter is all about. And after using this “incomplete” porn blocker, they’ll start asking you to purchase bonus packs and other additional software. You may not realize this, but the porn industry is a billion dollar industry. They have been in this business a long time, and they know exactly how to design their adult content to slip “under the nets” of web filters, not to mention a FREE ones! They use various methods of getting their content onto your computer… without the use of a website. All they need is a few misspelled URLs, email links, and Pop-ups to dump their trash onto your desktop. These are just a few of the basic tactics that porn industries use to entice men and boys. So what’s the use of downloading a free web-filtering software?

Ineffective Website Blocking

There are no guarantees that your web filter will be able to block all porn because hey, it’s free! If you had a filter that blocked out sites containing only mature words and porn company names, all the porn workers have to do is misspell their site’s domain name (as mentioned above), or they could simply give their site a neutral name like “White House”. The keyword “Playboy” would obviously get blocked, but a keyword like “White House”… of course not.

File Sharing Sites

A free porn blocker is unable to block file-sharing websites. What is a file sharing site, and why do you need to block them? File-sharing sites are where people can come and download free music, videos, games, and almost anything else that’s downloadable. But these sites are illegal. They contain free music that someone else paid for (the same goes for movies). So if you can download almost anything at file-sharing sites, then what about porn movie clips? Absolutely.

So now you can see the reasons why free web filters are surely a waste of time. But there’s more bad news. Most of the “paid” (yes paid) porn blockers are just as bad as if it were a free one. They cannot stop the examples mentioned above. So what are you going to do to protect your family?

100% Free Adult Amateur Films

The free adult porn market is pretty much thriving these days and more and more sites pop-up in this industry every day. The vids which they host are virtually mind-blowing and folks like them. On every single free porn page can be found a specific number of categories that will help you look for the vids that you like the most.

The grouping that in some way seems to turn me on is the Amateur. Amateur 100% free porn vids are simply astounding – there are no words and phrases in any way to explain a home made video with you and your girl making love in the craziest way possible. I absolutely am into these clips and i confess that I check out them once in a while. From them fresh approaches can be mastered for pleasing your lover better. All of these 20min clips can actually be considered as being educational vids from where you are able to understand how to do it much better, how to protect yourself and what things you mustn’t do during intercourse.

Almost all free porn amateur vids possess a little something exclusive that makes them one of the most wished-for. Looking at how unprofessional folks start kissing, touching, undressing, looking at them how they’re making real love – this stuff can’t be found in not one other free porn category and i also consider that amateur vids are worthy of the 1st place in any cost-free adult porn category countdown.

What I enjoy the most about free porn amateur vids would be the approach they’re done: through the help of a cellphone or a digicam or even using the webcam of the Personal computer or laptop computer. What I enjoy a lot more is the fact that all those people who have sex on the camera post their video on the internet, on specialized free porn webpages which host this kind of clips and can earn some cash from it… very cool! Try out such a vid on your own and hit me up – inform me what you think of it and from a scale from 1 to 10, just how great the amateur category is.

The Best Way You Can Break Free of a Porn Addiction

I am not one to brag and I am not one to set new years resolutions. In fact, my porn addiction was broken before the new year. This is just a simple article on how I broke free of a porn addiction.

There are many men out there with an addiction to pornography. One statistic that I read said upwards of 48% of Christian men were struggling with an addiction to porn. Some 8 weeks ago, I was counted in that number but not anymore!

There exists a process of repentance where if you are desperate enough as a Christian you can cry out to God and be set free from porn. When you are really sorry for looking at Innocent girls and really sorry for doing sexual sin to your own body and really sorry to God for doing it, you can be set free.

First of all though, you have to come to see what you are doing is really wicked.

If you feel justified as the girls are being paid, or you think watching a girl who will be doing sexual acts for other men to watch whether you watch or not is not good enough. You have to first understand that you are wicked and watching a girl have sex is wicked and not at all what God desires from you.

You have to come to a point where you hate the sin. You have to come to a point where you can be confident to say to God you will never do it again.

When you realise that most girls that do a porn video only do one and leave the industry because they feel so humiliated and hurt by the experience, you may begin to have feelings for the poor girls.

When you have done some serious though about how bad it is and you are ready to really repent from your sin, just poor your heart out to God in a sorrowful prayer, telling Him if he grants you the grace you won’t ever look at porn again.

When you really are serious and you mean business with God, he will have an angel take the spirit of lust out of you and when you walk down the street the next day all the girls will look different. No longer will your eyes be drawn to an exposed breast instead you will shift your eyes from looking.

Are You Watching Alternative Media, Or “Fear Porn”?

Why are we as a society, so engaged by blood and gore? Do scenes of murder and mayhem excite us? I ask myself this question because I got so drawn in to some of the “Fear Porn” as it has been so cleverly dubbed. After seeing a lot of this type of thing in various places around the internet, I must say it has led me to investigate. I find myself on SANA (Syrian Arab News Agency) reading things I never would have read before. So is it all bad? Well I would say sitting in front of a computer all day for any reason can’t be good for your health. You need to get exercise. However I do feel that you can find really good information, if you do your own research and don’t just blindly believe one persons interpretation of anything.

There is so much information on so many different fronts, that it is hard to see how things connect. Far be it for me to be able to connect the dots in a timely manner, having absolutely no prior knowledge of politics whatsoever. I only remember that once upon a time, we used to say the pledge of allegiance every morning in school. My son didn’t even know what that was! Unbelievable!

Today I felt a little proud of myself for reading that entire post on SANA. I even posted a clip of it on my blog. Old Al-Assad seems pretty confident he will win the war, despite the fact that he himself called it a “Global attack on Syria and the resistance”. what does he think? Does he believe he can defeat the world? Or does that just sound like some kind of plead for sympathy? What I mean to say is that, I wonder if the world is really on Syria’s head? It is unfortunate how little I know about any of this stuff! Still I have to say it is interesting.

I guess the point I’m trying to get across is that, it is true that there are many things going on at the same time all over the world. We should be aware of the world around us, and realize there is information out there, that is there, to manipulate a certain reaction out of you. I have to say, some of this stuff can scare the bejesus out of you if you are unaware of information to the contrary. I am definitely skeptical of everything now! Even the ones who claim to be on my side. Wait, doesn’t that seem paranoid? Of course it does! Talk about a freekin light bulb going off! No way I won’t feed into it!

I think solutions are the only thing we should be focused on. How can we change anything, if all we do is go watch YouTube video’s and argue over who’s the bigger idiot? Now, I don’t claim to have all the answer’s, maybe not any, but I have an Idea.

What if everything was FREE? I mean Free Energy, Free All Natural Produce? Well, in my book, Aquaponics and Solar Energy would be a very nice start. What about you? Search these terms, I’m telling you, you are going to get excited! Especially if you support a family, or otherwise pull your own weight.

Using the Tips From an Adult Sex Guide Could Help Improve Your Love Life

Many books have been written for adults only. These books not only contain jokes, list out sex tips and discus different problems but also focus on games adults play. You can check out the details online and then download the right information which you can read at leisure. Several “Men’s only”sites are also available, where you can sign up as a member. Men openly discuss the most delicate topics and share views and opinions online. They send out regular newsletters, so that you receive an update on the latest in fashion, gadgets, products and more.

Some men are naturally good lovers. They are able to keep their women happy by doing what comes naturally. The important thing is that you should learn to relax. You should concentrate less on trying not to prematurely ejaculate and more on getting your lover in the right mood. A woman likes to take her time enjoying the sensations and foreplay that allows her to reach her peaks. Learn how to kiss and fondle her in such a way that she gets turned on. You can get detailed information from any adult sex guide online. Do not be hasty in choosing the first one that you see. Seeking information is one thing but putting it into practice will make the difference.

An adult sex guide will have more explicit information on the secret hot sex buttons you need to press, how much pressure you can apply and how to control yourself, from exploding prematurely. In the privacy of your bedroom, you can try out different variations and techniques. You can completely transform your den to make it look alluring, by lighting a few incensed candles, or you can both soak in that Jacuzzi swirling with beautiful red rose petals and lavender scented oils. The whole ambiance should be seductive with light music playing in the background. Do not overdo any of this because that could scare your lover away.

Make use of the hot sex tips that are contained in an Adult sex guide. Remember, kinky sex may interest your partner. Discuss your likes and dislikes and mutually try to benefit by deriving maximum pleasures from your efforts.

Read This Before Downloading Any Adult Sex Guide

The online world is actually inundated with adult sex guides. Just try searching for them on your favorite search engine and you are going to see such a lot of them waiting for you. They are all priced differently according to what they are supposed to contain and they contain different things as well. But, the point is, do you really need an adult sex guide?

The question you have to ask yourself is why you are looking for such a book to help you. Definitely the answer is that you are looking at improving your sexual performance. You are looking at giving your woman greater pleasure in bed. And you are hoping that the tantalizing sex guide you are looking forward to download will help you with it.

But, the fact is, no sex guide can help you if you don’t help yourself. These are some points you have to consider beforehand.

1. Good sex doesn’t come without a good equation with your partner. Yes, there are books that will train you in the pure art of carnal sex, but if you are in a long term committed relationship, then such a book won’t help you. Probably you will need a book that will tell you how to construct a better relationship with your partner than just some meaningless sex.

2. If you indulge in a great deal of foreplay, you can arouse your woman immensely. This is something that can really help you in what lies ahead. Maybe you won’t need the adult sex guide to spice up your act after that.

3. Another thing you have to consider is that you will need to actually implement the things that are mentioned in the guide if you want it to be effective for you. You cannot just read the book and then not implement it. Then it would be a futile exercise. In all probability the book is going to tell you about how you can have some more daring sexual experiences to make things more exciting-you have to be able to use that.

These are some of the things that you have to consider before downloading any adult sex guide. Will you be able to do it? That’s the question you have to answer.

Internet Pornography

Someone you know views internet pornography.

Accurate statistics are almost impossible to find but there is considerable evidence that internet pornography is growing both in volume and in the damage it is doing to men and women. Indirect evidence shows that more and more people are indulging in the viewing of porn and they doing it for longer and longer periods of time.

The Growing Internet Pornography Problem

Careful observations of recent trends demonstrates the problem.

More and more pornography sites on the web. The increasing number of porn sites is evident by the frequency in which they appear in otherwise innocent internet search results. Search engines like Google and Yahoo are careful to prevent trash sites from popping up in searches but the sheer number seems to be more than the engines can keep up with. Searches for some medical problems or a search to find information about a celebrity are almost certain to generate porn sites included in the listings.
More and more pornographic spam email. How often do you find odd emails sent to you from people and places you do not know? Many times these emails promote internet sites that specialize in various forms of adultery or pornography. The fact that they are being sent so frequently suggests the technique works; that people actually open and respond to the messages.
Increases in internet pornography as a component of marital discord. Marital counselors are seeing more and more clients where addictive internet pornography viewing is at least a part of the problem. Men and women steal intimacies from their spouses by consorting with internet porn sites.
Corporate IT departments verify rising pornography viewing on the job. Businesses are spending more and more time and money preventing the viewing of pornography on their corporate networks. Businessmen are concerned about the vast amount of time spent on such sites and the damage such viewing can bring to their employees.

There can be little question that internet pornography is growing. Some estimates suggest that web-based porn generates more revenue than that from ABC, CBS and NBC combined. It is big business and it is growing. 20 to 33 percent of internet users go online for sexual purposes according to studies done as recently as 2005. Those same studies, and others, report that up to 17% of users actually fit definitions of sexual addictions. In almost all cases, both users and their partners report a change or chilling effect in their intimate relationships after the obsession with internet porn began.

The New York Times published an article almost ten years ago that documents the growth of the industry back then. If anything, it is larger today.Spurred by changes in technology that make pornography easier to order into the home than pizza, and court decisions that offer broad legal protection, the business of selling sexual desire through images has become a $10 billion annual industry in the United States, according to Forrester Research of Cambridge, Mass., and the industry’s own Securities and Exchange Commission filings.

$10 billion in 2000? Can you imagine what that has grown to today?

Even the federal government is not exempt from employees using government computers for porn access. Just a month ago, two United States Senators took the National Science Foundation to task for failing to properly discipline employees who used taxpayer equipment to view porn. “In one case, a senior staff member used his agency computer to view live sexual performances and engage in sex-oriented online “chatting” with performers,” Internet Pornography Is An Easy Addiction Few addictive behaviors have grown as quickly as internet pornography. In past decades, one had to search for pornographic magazines in sleazy shops in a bad part of town or behind the counter in some convenience store. Today internet pornography has changed all that. Internet porn is especially powerful for three key reasons. Some have called these three reasons a “triple engine” effect.

Internet pornography is cheap or free. Many porn sites offer free images or videos. Often the provider hopes to draw in a user by teasing them with samples. Often porn sites offer subscriptions to their raunchiest material for a few dollars a month to anyone with a credit card, debit card or access to an online payment service.
Internet pornography is instant gratification. Someone searching for internet porn can find it with a single one word search on Google or Yahoo. Within minutes, a user will be deep into pornography. There is little or no time delay between the decision to engage in viewing porn and the moment it is actually found. Our culture preaches instant gratification in many areas of life and the internet makes it supremely possible.
Internet pornography is anonymous. Gone are the days of slipping into that sleazy shop and trying to buy a video or magazine without being seen by someone. Now one can surf the waves of internet porn with hardly a trace.